Reframing



Reframing

My life recently became very, VERY busy. But I welcomed all these new projects, and I'm excited about them. Fine, good; proceed! But yesterday when I got to my day job, I became busy in a different way. Responding to requests that were ill-considered, inconvenient (in terms of a larger project), and some of them were, frankly, not even my job to complete (though these were still being left up to me). For a moment, I was overwhelmed and upset. It didn't seem fair. I didn't have time for these things! I was starting my Monday off in a very Monday Mindset. But then I made the conscious decision that Mondays weren't bad. Work wasn't bad. A full day's worth of projects (even if they weren't the project I had intended to spend my day on) weren't bad. They just were. Good or Bad was all in my approach to them. All in how I chose to perceive them. I reframed my thought process. Instead of "How the [EXPLETIVE DELETED] do they expect me to do all this AND get my work done?!" I chose to think, "Wow, I have a lot of opportunities to help people today!" And I kept saying it, over and over. So I was in a better place when, at the end of the day, the project that I was supposed to be working on had its deadline moved up three weeks. I was already mentally focused on telling my story the way I wanted to. Instead of "How unfair! I've been stuck working on these other things for people, and putting out their fires, and now I have even LESS time to work on this project!" my outlook was primed to think, "Okay, great! That project will be complete even earlier! Let's see what has to happen to get a viable product out, and I'll work on the secondary features to roll those out after launch." Hey, yes. I was saying it through clenched teeth at first. But I could have thrown a fit, had a panic attack, and ruined the rest of my day. I could have canceled all my other plans and projects to work into the dead of night and through sunrise to try and keep my launch plan on the schedule I had hoped for. But I removed my anxiety from play, took a deep breath, and chose the sunnier path forward. I chose the story I wanted to tell about my day, and even if it was a lie at first, it became the truth because I said so. This doesn't seem to have a lot to do with writing, I know, but this mindset gets me through a lot of unexpected changes that don't fit in with my plans. As someone who is a total control fusspot, this is a big deal. It applies to everything, and I hope it's making me a more successful entrepreneur and artist.